In this edition of Brandler Bits, learn how the things we regret create difficult emotions for us. Regret comes from things we did or said and the things that we wished we said or did. Learn how to “regret proof” your life.
In this edition of Brandler Bits learn about the factors to lead people to be motivated to make changes in their lives. Some of these are supported by research, some of these have occurred through therapeutic experiences. Identify what you need to do in order to start to be motivated to change!
In this episode of Brandler Bits, learn about how people tend to minimize the severity of problems. Identify strategies to identify, own, and treat these problems.
This is the 3rd part of this multi-part series about how to reduce our anxiety and fear. In this part, you will learn what strategies you can use to be less anxious. This segment will give you an opportunity to experience how breathing can reduce your anxiety.
In the latest edition of Brandler Bits, listen to how to make successful changes for the coming year. Listen to how resolutions often fail but setting a specific goal will lead you to improve your quality of life.
In this episode of Brandler Bits, learn how being grateful can make you great.
This is the debut of a new concept. It is called “Brandler Bits”
What you get from Brandler Bits is short, sweet and to the point. No flowy podcasts, no long prosy blogs, just the main point. In a short amount of time, you will hear the concept and learn some specific ways to continue to make change.
Today on Brandler Bits–do you want to do what’s easiest or do what’s best…..
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Courage is a large and powerful word. It is defined as “mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.”
Courage is a major trait that people need to use in order to make changes in their lives. In my office, people need a great deal of courage in order to improve the quality of their lives. In fact, the entire journey is filled with many courageous steps. Let’s examine the process.
Almost all prospective clients start their counseling process by either calling or emailing. They inevitably state three words that are hard to say “I need help.” They schedule an appointment. They need to show up for the appointment that they scheduled. (You may or may not be surprised, that there is a percentage of people who cancel that appointment and do not reschedule.)
During that first appointment the person now says out loud and face to face, what their particular struggle/ problem/difficulty/ is that they are facing. The person describes it in full detail, the duration, the intensity, the consequences and implications of this issue. On one hand, this is overwhelming disclosure; on the other hand there is relief. Someone now knows.
To illustrate how much courage is required, here is a small sample of some of the issues that came up in my office this past week:
- A person who wants to stop drinking.
- A person who wants to get out of a marriage.
- A person who is dealing with an abusive ex-spouse.
- A person who is dealing with family issues and lots of family dysfunction.
- A person who is going to their first 12 step meeting.
- A person who shares about a traumatic event. I am the first person to hear the details.
Yes I get to meet with some very courageous people!
The question that comes to mind is how do people find the courage and perseverance to make these changes? Some people would say that they are just motivated to improve. And while that is obvious, the bigger question would be how did they get so motivated to improve?
Tony Robbins states “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.” Courage to change would then occur when there is no way out; I will have to do something better than what I am currently doing. Although immensely scary, the path of change has to be better than the path that I’m on. If I keep walking on the path of change, I will recognize that the pain gets smaller, the intensity and duration are less. Does this happen instantly? Of course not! Nothing worthwhile is ever fast and quick—fast food may satisfy your immediate hunger, but won’t help you in the long run. Your commitment to change will require a constant re-evaluation of your courage.
Two other components of courage, are a dedication to change and a hopeful belief system. At times during therapy, there were opportunities where it would be easy for my clients to stop coming due to the myriad of life stressors (kids, jobs, cars etc), but they kept coming. When they were asked how they managed to keep coming in spite of their pain or fear or discomfort, they expressed the hope that they could and would be better. This belief about their futuristic change combined with their dedication led them to quality of life changes.
It seems to me that when you find your courage to change and believe that your changes are indeed possible, you change. Find your courage today in order to make the changes that you need to make!
Change is possible.
With the New Year approaching, it’s a good time to take stock of last year.
- Did you have a good and healthy year?
- Did you make all the changes that you hoped to make?
- Did you follow through on the goals that you had planned?
If you’ve answered “no” to any of these questions, let me introduce you to something which may help you answer “yes” to the same questions for 2018.
Through the use of hypnosis I have helped people make the following changes:
1) Anxiety–dramatic decrease.
2) Sleep–more restful.
3) Sexual Performance–A dramatic increase.
4) Depression– significant decrease.
5) Physical Pain– significant decrease in the intensity.
Many of these changes occurred in just one or two sessions.
Hypnosis is an amazing and powerful treatment. For some people it has been a great addition to the “tools” that they needed to be better. For some people, it was their only treatment .
I would like to introduce you to this powerful change agent. On the first Saturday of every month, starting on January 6, 2018, I will be facilitating a small group demonstration of hypnosis. You will get to see if hypnosis can work for you. The cost is $20 per group session. Registration is required since space is limited.
To register go to: http://www.changeispossible.org/event/new-year-new-you/. You can pre-pay at the Pay Pal link on the website.
If you are not much of a group person, but are interested in discovering the benefits of hypnosis, feel free to contact me and we will schedule a private consultation.
This can be your year of change–it can be a New You, New Year!
Change is indeed possible!