Heavyweight boxer Tyson Fury on his greatest fight

Tyson Fury was the heavyweight boxing champion of the world.  He was undiagnosed  with bipolar disorder.  He drank and used drugs and self medicated his depression.  He ballooned up to 400 lbs.  One year ago he made a decision to get better.  He is fighting again on December 1 to regain the title he lost, but MORE IMPORTANTLY is sharing his story in order to help others.

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Courage

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

Nelson Mandela

 

Courage is a large and powerful word.  It is defined as “mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty.

Courage is a major trait that people need to use in order to make changes in their lives.  In my office, people need a great deal of courage in order to improve the quality of their lives.  In fact, the entire journey is filled with many courageous steps.  Let’s examine the process.

Almost all prospective clients start their counseling process by either calling or emailing.  They inevitably state three words that are hard to say “I need help.” They schedule an appointment. They need to show up for the appointment that they scheduled. (You may or may not be surprised, that there is a percentage of people who cancel that appointment and do not reschedule.)

During that first appointment the person now says out loud and face to face, what their particular struggle/ problem/difficulty/ is that they are facing. The person describes it in full detail, the duration, the intensity, the consequences and implications of this issue.  On one hand, this is overwhelming disclosure; on the other hand there is relief.  Someone now knows.

To illustrate how much courage is required, here is a small sample of some of the issues that came up in my office this past week:

  • A person who wants to stop drinking.
  • A person who wants to get out of a marriage.
  • A person who is dealing with an abusive ex-spouse.
  • A person who is dealing with family issues and lots of family dysfunction.
  • A person who is going to their first 12 step meeting.
  • A person who shares about a traumatic event. I am the first person to hear the details.

Yes I get to meet with some very courageous people!

The question that comes to mind is how do people find the courage and perseverance to make these changes?  Some people would say that they are just motivated to improve.  And while that is obvious, the bigger question would be how did they get so motivated to improve?

Tony Robbins states “Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”  Courage to change would then occur when there is no way out; I will have to do something better than what I am currently doing.  Although immensely scary, the path of change has to be better than the path that I’m on.  If I keep walking on the path of change, I will recognize that the pain gets smaller, the intensity and duration are less. Does this happen instantly?  Of course not!  Nothing worthwhile is ever fast and quick—fast food may satisfy your immediate hunger, but won’t help you in the long run.  Your commitment to change will require a constant re-evaluation of your courage.

Two other components of courage, are a dedication to change and a hopeful belief system.  At times during therapy, there were opportunities where it would be easy for my clients to stop coming due to the myriad of life stressors (kids, jobs, cars etc), but they kept coming. When they were asked how they managed to keep coming in spite of their pain or fear or discomfort, they expressed the hope that they could and would be better. This belief about their futuristic change combined with their dedication led them to quality of life changes.

It seems to me that when you find your courage to change and believe that your changes are indeed possible, you change. Find your courage today in order to make the changes that you need to make!

 

Change is possible.

 

 

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Escape

The Escape from Summer Hypnosis group met on July 28, 2018.

It was a great group with all participants having a positive response.

Here is a sample of what the group experienced that day:

 

If you are interested in finding out more about how hypnosis can improve your life, contact me here

change is possible.

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Escape from Summer Stress Hypnosis Group

Is summer getting you stressed?

Are you feeling overwhelmed?

Do you need a chance to get away from all of this stress?

Having you considered hypnosis as a way to de-stress and reduce your anxiety?

By attending you will have a 1 hour small group experience which will provide with the knowledge of how hypnosis works.  You will also have the opportunity to try out hypnosis and see you can use it in your daily life.

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Hypnosis workshop

This 90 minute presentation will introduce participants to hypnosis.

The workshop will have both didactic and experiential components.

Didactic

  • What is hypnosis?
  • Facts, Myths & Misconceptions about hypnosis.
  • Which problems are best treated with hypnosis?

 

Experiential

  • There will be a group demonstration of hypnosis followed by a discussion period afterwards.
  • Group members will also learn about further options in order to continue their hypnosis practice.
  • All participants will have the option to receive an audio recording of their hypnosis experience in order to continue to practice this skill.
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Fear and Anxiety With Dr. Jeff Brandler

 

This podcast was recorded as an episode in the “Friends in Recovery Podcast” series

The Podfather Mike Miles is away in Fiji leaving Jeff Zeizel and Ed Chionchio Sr to interview Dr. Jeff Brandler about his practice, podcast, and blog at www.changeIsPossible.org. Dr. Jeff uses many tools to help his clients deal with fear and anxiety like hypnosis, acupuncture, and bench marking “What is the worst thing that ever happened to you?” and “How does this situation compare with that?” He reminds his clients that things are “inconvenient not tragic” and that Action alleviates anxiety. Remember you or your loved one do not need to hit rock bottom to get help. Thought stopping Remember you or your loved one do not need to hit rock bottom to get help. If you or a loved one needs help reach out to our panel at Help@FriendsInRecoveryPodcast.com. There are also many ways to help someone that is suffering from addiction. There are professionals here to help you from staging an intervention to getting counseling as a family member. This and every Friends in Recovery Podcast is recorded live at the Studio 21 Podcast Café, is hosted on the United Podcast Network and is brought you by Genesis House.

 

 

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