From Loving the Self Absorbed by Dr. Nina Brown.
- Constantly looks to you to meet their needs.
- Expects you to know what he/she expects, desires, and needs without having to ask for it.
- Gets upset when you are perceived to be critical or blaming.
- Expects you to put his/her needs before your own.
- Seeks attention in indirect ways.
- Expects you to openly admire him/her.
- Acts childish, e.g., sulks or pouts.
- Accuses you of being insensitive or uncaring without cause or notice.
- Finds fault with your friends.
- Becomes angry when challenged or confronted.
- Does not seem to recognize your feelings.
- Uses your disclosures to criticize, blame, or discount you.
- Is controlling.
- Lies, distorts, and misleads.
- Is competitive and uses any means to get what is wanted.
- Has a superior attitude.
- Is contemptuous of you and others.
- Is arrogant.
- Is envious of others.
- Demeans and devalues you.
- Is self-centered and self absorbed.
- Has to be the center of attention.
- Manipulates others to win attention.
- Is impulsive and reckless.
- Boasts and brags.
- Is insensitive to your needs.
- Makes fun of others’ mistakes or faults.
- Engages in seductive behavior.
- Is vengeful.
- Expects favors, but does not return them.